12 Tips for a Beautiful and Meaningful Wedding from Newlyweds!
“So you said, “Yes!” and now you are embarking on the wedding journey! Congrats! Marriage is one of the most amazing things EVER and we are thrilled for you! As newlyweds, we put our heads together to come up with “what worked and what we wish we would have known” to help you get started!”
1. INCLUDE GOD FROM THE BEGINNING
Jeff and I got so stressed in the beginning with trying to find a venue in our budget that would work for the amount of guests we thought we would have. It was overwhelming and to be honest, I told Jeff I thought we should just elope. As we were scouring the Internet one night, I felt the Holy Spirit tugging at my heart. “You haven’t included me.” I shared this with Jeff and we both stopped what we were doing and began praying. It was in that prayer that the Lord gave us specific direction. I’m talking He gave us the name of the city to where we should look for a venue. If you want a more in depth story here is my blog post on this miracle. But the point is, invite God in from the very beginning and He will direct your steps!
2. PLAN THE WEDDING TOGETHER
You might be the girl who was planning her wedding since the moment you could play dress up or you might be the guy that just “doesn’t care”, but one of the coolest experiences for us, was that we made our choices together. Sure there was compromise (I can get carried away with gold) but in the end, people kept telling us, “we see you and Jeff everywhere.” The celebration was a reflection of our new lives as one and that is a special experience.
Even if you know this in your head, put extra safeguards around this for your heart. It can be easy to get caught up in the wedding and without realizing it, you have stopped dating and working on your relationship. Have a mentor that holds you accountable, definitely DO Pre-marriage counseling, set dates that are just for you two, and check in with each other on a personal level.
Don’t listen to the wedding dress shops and the venues and the wedding planners—you don’t need a year to plan a wedding. We planned our wedding in 4 months because we wanted to start our lives together. You don’t need to put your lives on hold or compromise your purity because you want the perfect flowers or venue or you want to please everyone in your family.
Seriously. You can’t. Focus on your future spouse, because in the end it is about you two.
I made the mistake of pushing off small tasks, which made us cram a lot of little things in two weeks before the big day. You are going to want wedding week time with family and friends that are in town. Take the small tasks off your plate early!
7. CREATE A SHOT LIST OF PHOTOS YOU WANT
Speaking of delaying small tasks….I wish I had done this. I had it “in my head” but when it came to the day, things were happening so fast that a lot of what I had in my head was lost.
Think about the people you want to hold you accountable, to do life with you, who are going to be there for you through your marriage. Being a member of a bridal party is a big job. Also note, sometimes it’s ok to not ask someone who you know is in a season of life where they would be overwhelmed. Just have a conversation with that person so they know you care and understand it would be unfair to put such a burden on them.
This is what your bridal party is for (and also why you want to be sensitive to the seasons of life people might be in!) They want to help you, so get good at delegating! We both talked about how we wouldn’t have gotten through our wedding without our bridal party. It was like we had a troop rallying around us, cheering us on, selflessly helping us…they were in it.
10. LET YOUR BRIDESMAIDS CHOOSE THEIR DRESS
I highly recommend this. As women, our bodies are different, and the dress that looks good on one girl might not look good on another. Plus it stinks to have to spend so much money on a dress that you won’t wear again! I gave my girls a color palette and told them I wanted it to be long. They chose dresses that were unique to them, which was special to me.
11. IF YOU CAN HELP IT, DO NOT LEAVE RIGHT AWAY FOR YOUR HONEYMOON!
Weddings are emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausting. Give yourself at least an extra day to not have to rush off to the airport and be on an agenda. Process the magnitude of this event, enjoy each other (you probably won’t have seen each other alone the week prior), give yourself time to breathe and relax!
12. DO A WEDDING VIDEO AND HIRE OLSEN MEDIA!
“First of all, I will admit I was on the fence about a wedding video. I figure we were spending so much money on pictures that maybe we could cut the budget. I am so thankful that we hired Eric! Our wedding video is one of my most favorite memories I have! The day goes by so fast, and to relive it was really a gift! Jeff and I are both in the entertainment industry and have been around a lot of directors and DP’s….Eric, blew us away with what he captured. He has an incredible eye and a gorgeous way of telling your story.”
We happen to agree especially with that last point!
Share this with anyone who is planning their wedding and could use some quick tips! Also, click below to check out their incredible wedding in the California mountains:
Trevor + Anna - Summer Wedding at the Arboretum
Jeff + Jacquelyn - Gorgeous California Wedding in the Mountains
Dream destination, wonderful couple, and joyous friends and family. The perfect mix for an incredible wedding! What a great event to be a part of and to capture. Jeff and Jacquelyn are both actors (which isn't hard to see!) but there was no acting involved on this day. Emotions swelled through heartfelt vows and letters and it was easy to see the love these two share. Thanks for having me film your big day and congratulations!
Music licensed through Art List.io and Musicbed.com
Benjamin + Emily - Beautiful Fall Wedding in Southern Minnesota
There's nothing better than a crisp, fall day in Minnesota and that's exactly what Ben and Emily's day was. Fallen leaves, a little chill in the air, and more than enough laughter and joy to go with it. These two were a pleasure to film with and have such a genuine love for each other. Thanks for having me film your big day!
Music licensed through art-list.io, musicbed.com, and songfreedom.com
Adam + Kelsey - Beautiful Wedding at Grandview Lodge in Brainerd, MN
I love being in the north woods of Minnesota. I've been going there since I was young and even lived there for about 4 years. So, I jumped at the opportunity to shoot at Grandview Lodge. The real bonus though was filming with Kelsey and Adam. They just had fun all day and celebrated their love together. Thank you both for having me film your big day and congratulations!
Music licensed through the Music Bed and Art List io
Photographer - Tim Larsen - timlarsenphoto.com
Venue - Grandview Lodge - grandviewlodge.com
Aaron + Kelsey - Sunny Wisconsin Wedding!
From secret love to publicly declaring it, this couple was meant for each other. They had one of the hottest days of the summer but the sun couldn't dampen any spirits that day as it was their love for each other that covered over all. Everyone had a ton of fun and I'm so glad that we were able to document and retell the story for you all now. Thanks Aaron and Kelsey for having us be a part of your big day and congratulations to you and your new family!
Music licensed through the Music Bed and Art List io
Clayton + Jessica - Downtown Minneapolis Wedding
Photography by Amanda Marie
Planning by Ask for the Moon Events
Ceremony at Hennepin UMC
Reception at Aria MPLS
Nathan + Hannah - Beautiful Malaysian Wedding in Minneapolis!
For the full gallery of photos, click here
Matt + Alison - Wonderful Winter Wedding!
Louis + Kristen - Minnesota Video Awards Submission
Update 3/23: This video has been selected to be in the top 10! I won't know until the day of the awards ceremony where it will land but it's an honor to be in the top 10 once again. The Minnesota Video Awards are being held on April 7th at Abulae.
Southern MN Weddings Photo Shoot - Behind the Scenes
For more info on Southern MN Weddings - southernminnesotaweddings.com
Also check out the photographer, Daniel Dinsmore - dinsmorephotography.com
Jake + Kaili - Beautiful November Wedding!
Mitch + Cassy - Central MN Wedding
What a great wedding to be a part of! Located in beautiful, central Minnesota. With the lake as a backdrop and a great church for the ceremony this wedding sure does look nice on camera! These two are head over heels for each other and have great family and friends as well.
Congrats to both of you and thanks for having me be a part of your big day!
Music licensed through The Music Bed
Scott + Brenna - Beautiful Minnesota Wedding
What a great couple! They wore their hearts on their sleeves the whole day and they couldn't be more in love. Thank you for having me be a part of your big day and a big congratulations to both of you! Music licensed by The Music Bed and Song Freedom
Michael + Shannon - Gorgeous Outdoor Wedding
Even though this wedding was one of the hottest days of the year, I loved everything about it! Mike and Shannon were a pleasure to work with and the scenery was incredible. Big congratulations to both of you! Music Licensed by The Music Bed
